Relationships and Disintigration

"If you want endless repetition, see a lot of different people. If you want infinite variety, stay with one."
~ Joni Mitchell

It's so common today for people to engage exclusively in relationships that we require to be convenient, and comfortable, or to instead fill our time with multiple experiences that offer that same convenience, and comfort. In a way it's a form of personal, and relational stagnation. By rejecting any potential disintegration that may threaten our personal status quo, we remain in a state of perpetual social, and emotional adolescence

In relationships that strive toward healthy growth, we often face the challenges of disintegration, and reintegration. Not necessarily by design, or through manipulation, but rather through organic challenges, conflict, and resolution. There's so much that can be explored between people, that it seems like a shame to get stuck just at surface level, but for many of us anything else feels dangerous, and unhealthy. It's really not. Seeing equilibrium as a static structure makes it fragile. We need to question our own perspectives, and have them regularly questioned by others in order to refine those perspectives toward integrity, and resilience. This is unavoidable in long term, committed relationships (unless people just give up on it)